The Bible tells us to “let all bitterness and wrath and anger and clamor and slander be put away from you, along with all malice” Eph 4:31 ESV This speaks directly to being intentional and making a conscious effort to manage your emotions versus letting your emotions manage you.

Pray and ask God for help and wisdom on identifying the source/s of your anger and be open to His leading on what steps you should take and resources you should engage to victory over your anger.

The Bible instructs us in James 1:19-20 to “let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God” (ESV). Trying to solve problems in ways that cater to our sinful nature is never a good idea. 

Take time to pull away, calm down,  and pray. Ask God to give you clarity on how to best bring solutions to the conversation regardless of individual differences. Do what He prompts you to do, say what He prompts you to say, and trust Him to bring the best result.

You do not have to forget a trespass to heal from it. Forgiveness means you have come to a point where you can remember with a reduction or the absence of an emotional and/or physical response to the memory. As Christians, we are expected to forgive others. Colossians 3:13, the Bible says, “bearing with one another and, if one has a complaint against another, forgiving each other; as the Lord has forgiven you, so you also must forgive” (ESV). Forgiveness is a major part of our faith; Christ died so that we could be released from the penalty of our sins.

When it comes to forgiving others, it is not automatic. Still, a choice to no longer allow something done to you to pull you out of the nature of Christ into unforgiveness and, eventually bitterness. Depending on what has happened, this may be a complex process initiated in prayer and possibly assisted through other means- prayer partners, spiritual leaders, and professional counselors-just, to name a few.